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Sunday, January 6, 2013

Living Authentically in 2013

What does it mean to live authentically? If you don't know who you are then could you ever live your life authentically? But, does a person ever really know who they are? I'm not sure, and perhaps arguing over the whole premise will never get anyone anywhere. I read a great book in 2010 that I've been thinking about a lot. In fact, I just bought a new copy so I can reread it. I first heard about Brene Brown from a friend who referred me to her Ted Talk. She wrote a book about living a Wholehearted life. Her book is The Gifts of Imperfection. I will probably write more about her book and maybe her new book, when I've read it. It is Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead. She talks a lot about living authentically, living a wholehearted life, and living in vulnerability. Great stuff. And, I feel like I'm often pulled from a life of authenticity because, well for a lot of reasons. But I know that for me, authenticity begins in deliberateness.

When I was 15, I discovered Henry David Thoreau, not a big revelation to many of you. But, I've stayed a Thoreau fan because of what he taught me and continues to teach me. 

"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear, nor did I wish to practise[sic] resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to live deep and suck the marrow out of life...to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms, and, if it proved to be mean, why then to get the whole and genuine meanness of it, and publish its meanness to the world; or if it were sublime, to know it by experience, and be able to give a true account of it."  Walden, "Where I Lived and What I Lived For"

I'm not moving to a pond or getting rid of all my possessions; rather, I am going to live deliberately. I don't want to let all my indecision become my decision. I want to focus on the things that truly matter to me. And, perhaps find new things that matter greatly. 

9 comments:

SalliJune said...

What a treat! And here I thought you had abandoned blogging forever. Thank you for sharing your thoughts today. Your words about authenticity and vulnerability met my own searching thoughts today. Like Jo in Little Woman, I too am "hopelessly flawed." But, unlike Satan would have us believe, maybe that's not so bad after all.
I love your heart and I miss your voice and eyes. Richard and I are working on finding him a job and moving to Salt Lake this summer! It's time. We've learned so much from 'deliberately' moving away, and now it's time to 'deliberately' move back.
by the way, I also blogged the same day you did. Our spirits must still be in sync. :)

SalliJune said...

What a treat! And here I thought you had abandoned blogging forever. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your words about authenticity and vulnerability met my own searching thoughts just this very day. Like Jo in Little Woman, I too am "hopelessly flawed." But, unlike Satan would have us believe, maybe that's not so bad after all.
I love your heart and I miss your voice and eyes. Richard and I are working on finding him a job and moving to Salt Lake this summer! It's time. We've learned so much from 'deliberately' moving away, and now it's time to 'deliberately' move back.
By the way, I also blogged the same day you did. Our spirits must still be in sync. :)
Love,
SalliJune

SalliJune said...

What a treat! And here I thought you had abandoned blogging forever. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your words about authenticity and vulnerability met my own searching thoughts just this very day. Like Jo in Little Woman, I too am "hopelessly flawed." But, unlike Satan would have us believe, maybe that's not so bad after all.
I love your heart and I miss your voice and eyes. Richard and I are working on finding him a job and moving to Salt Lake this summer! It's time. We've learned so much from 'deliberately' moving away, and now it's time to 'deliberately' move back.
By the way, I also blogged the same day you did. Our spirits must still be in sync. :)
Love,
SalliJune

Janelle said...

Definitely a welcomed treat! :) It is wonderful to hear you! :) Thanks for choosing to live deliberatly!:)

Janelle said...

Yes, what a welcomed treat! It is good to hear you agian. Thanks for choosing to live deliberately.

Grover said...

Great post. I have been thinking about a similar theme in my own life lately. Thoreau felt ridding his life of possessions, and moving would assist him in living deliberately. I am trying to simplify my life as to not get wrapped up materialism.

Mindy said...

I love Brene Brown. The Gifts of Imperfection changed my life, particularly the concept that faith=living with and embracing uncertainty. But I hadn't heard her TED talk. It was fun to watch her explain her research in person. And I love your blog. So glad you came back to it. :) Hope to see you soon.

Daisy Chick said...

I love this and just saw it for the first time. Needed this today. Love you and love hearing your thoughts.

Daisy Chick said...

Loved hearing this today and so happy you are blogging. Love hearing your thoughts.